Calling All Kids!

If you have a little one in your life--be it your child, niece, nephew, or cousin--please consider submitting him or her for the Kidz Corner section of Protecting Your Crown & Glory.

Kidz Corner

Remember back in September when I first introduced Kidz Corner? Well, I'm doing it again, but this time on video. Check it out:

Introducing Kidz Corner!

I receive quite a few emails and personal messages from mothers asking for product recommendations and hair care advice for their children. I've been thinking about adding a kids section to PYCAG for a while, and now that I'm a mommy, there's no time like the present!

Today I'm introducing Kidz Corner, where you can find all things relating to babies and kids. My son and niece will be my guinea pigs models, but I want to give other mommies an opportunity to feature their little ones as well.

Hair

Mommy, Why is My Hair Different?

I can recall, as a young black girl, wondering why my hair was different from all the other non-black children that surrounded me at school. I can also recall yearning for the long, straight, flowing locks that many of my peers possessed. With white dolls selling like hot cakes, and there being very little if any black dolls to choose from, it was very difficult to not buy into one brand of beauty. Luckily, over time, I learned to accept my hair and beauty for what it is. Unfortunately, even with the images of black beauty we now have to look up to, there still exists a large number of black children that struggle to accept their hair and its unique characteristics.

While discussing the topic of "good hair" with my parents recently, my father explained how the concept of "good hair" vs. "bad hair" was born out of slavery, which was a system devised to destroy us as a people. Light skin vs. dark skin and "good hair" vs. "bad hair" were just some of the distinctions that were made in order to tear us apart. After all, if the slave owners could pit us against each other, that would weaken us as a united force. Apparently, that plan worked, because hundreds of years later, our children still wonder why our hair is different -- and not just different from that of other races, but different from each other's. Instead of simply seeing such differences as unique qualities that are neither good nor bad, they're often viewed as inferior. Yet, our hair, as my father pointed out, was uniquely designed to be curlier and kinkier than that of other races because of the climate from which we originated. Basically, our highly textured hair served as great protection from the sun and harsh heat prevalent in Africa.

Coincidentally, the day following the discussion I had with my parents regarding black hair, I purchased the September/October issue of Sophisticate's Black Hair Styles and Care Guide only to find the very same topic being discussed within the pages of the magazine. In "Coiffing Kids," cosmetologist and beauty professional Jacqueline Tarrant states that, "Children's hair care sets the stage for a lifetime of self-esteem." She continues that parents should "Make children feel good about their hair, no matter how it looks, feels, or how much of a struggle it is for you, as a parent, to deal with. You can't make the child feel [the hair] is a bad or ugly thing because they will carry this into adulthood." The article goes on to discuss a few facts about children and hair care. The fact that caught my eye and the one that coincides with the words spoken by my father is as follows:

"Fact: Kids should understand why their hair is different. Part of developing a child's self-esteem is explaining why there's a difference in his or her hair from the hair of children of other races, Tarrant shares. 'It's really all about our origins on the planet,' she details, describing what parents should share with their little ones. 'People of color come from the continent of Africa, which is a very hot climate, and our hair was created with this highly textured form as protection for our scalp.' Once children understand the cultural perspective of their hair, they'll, in turn, begin to take pride in their appearance, she says (page 100)."

I realize that knowing something and truly believing it are two different things. Thus, once we teach our children about their heritage, it is important to constantly work at helping them believe that their unique qualities are in fact beautiful and to be respected. I know this isn't an easy task, but hopefully things will get easier for children who are growing up today. After all, to be able to see a president and first family that looks like them, young black girls may finally be able to relinquish some of the inferiority issues many tend to hold onto well into adulthood, and truly learn to love themselves.

Hair

Is She Serious?

One of my YouTube subscribers sent me a link to the video below, and I was appalled by what I saw. At first, I thought it was a joke, but the profanity was so excessive that I couldn't find the humor in it. Apparently, no one else did. Not only did the video receive a lot of flack from the YouTube community, but a writer for Black Voices posted an article, chastising the woman in the video for showing the world How Not to Care for Your Child's Hair.

I must warn you that the video contains a lot of profanity, and many have deemed the woman's actions as child abuse. See the footage here:




This is case in point as to why we must speak positively to our children about their hair. Self esteem starts early, and no child should be made to feel as though they have "bad" or unmanageable hair. With the right products, tools and techniques, any texture can be dealt with in a loving way.