So, I was at work today, and a co-worker came up to me and said, "Wow, I love your hair. It looks beautiful." Before I could respond with a "Thank you," she asked hecka loud, "Is it all yours?"
Now she's seen me with my hair down and straight before, so why she chose to ask me this today and so loudly in front of others is beyond me. Anyway, I said, "Yes, it is," and thanked her for the compliment, but my goodness. What if it hadn't been all mine? I think that's a pretty rude question to ask someone, especially in the presence of others. What if I had some clip-ins in or a weave and didn't want anyone to know?
What would you have said/done in a situation like this if it a) was yours and b) wasn't all yours??
XOXO,
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When I had my relaxer and always use to wear roller wraps I was always asked is it wig, or is it all me. I would say yes and it wasn't even the fact my hair was long it was because my hair was so thick that my roller wraps were very full with a lot of body. At first I use to get mad but then I just took it as a compliment. However, even when I do have pieces or a full sew-in, if they are loud I say yes its mines and keep it moving. However, most people who ask if its yours usually are not loud.
1 week out of the year I wear my hair straight and that's in December. With the heat and humidity in Texas majority of the year coupled with workouts my straight hair has no chance. So my hair is always curly or in a pin up when at work. Last year when I wore my hair straight for a week in December. I walked to the receptionist desk and all eyes are on me. Everybody ooh and ahh over my length and from the back of the crowd someone said "is that a weave?" Before I can answer, surprisingly, someone said no that's her hair can you tell. I answered and said no this is not a weave it's my hair. The lady that asked the question responded "well I didn't know she never wears her hair down." I just left it at that!
Been there done that! My very very good friend did this to me at my baby shower. I was walking by and she literally pull the back of my hair and was like is this all you? Uhh you've only known me for years and you know I can cut and regrow hair anyday. She was like ohh it's so silky - my reply "yep and I don't get relaxers anymore so it's all me and all natural!"
It felt so good to say that it was all natural!
I hate when people ask that question? "Is it all yours?" I think it is really rude. And just because they asked even if it wasn't I would still say yeah. My whole thing is does it matter. I would never ask someone that question but that is just me.
Thanks for sounding off ladies. And I agree with you D. Marie: I would say "yes, it's mine," even if it was a weave because I bought it! :-P
Lol I was going to say the same thing about if I had a weave in. I would've responded yes its mines because I have thee receipt. My daughter have gotten into arguments with people in regards to if her hair is all hers or not. I mean seriously why can't people just say its nice looking and move on? Some folks...
Tina
I constantly go through this. I have always had long hair and ALWAYS get this question. Once i even had a lady try to touch my hair without me noticing (WEIRD!!!!!!) I am 18 months into my transition and my hair has grown ALOT so when i straighten it to get it trimmed the responses are even more dramatic than before. But i just usually laugh it off and respond with a "thank you...yes it is mine" and keep it moving. Some ppl can be so ignorant when it comes to African American women having long hair...but you just have to ignore the ignorance and move on. When i was younger i found the "is that your hair?" question VERY annoying but know that i am older i just laugh it off and move on.
Ironically, when I was relaxed I got asked if my hair was all mines. Now that I am natural I don't get asked it as much, but I still get the same reaction to the amount I have. I've never been bother by those questions. I think it's because whether I'm relaxed or natural I've always had long thick hair and to be honest I enjoyed saying that it's all mines. www.StyleOnPhotos.blogspot.com
I have this question asked all the time and I respond "what difference does it make?". "Would you walk up to a white and girl and ask her that?" Usually they have this look as if THEY'RE offended by my response. LoL. Tsk tsk! By the way YES it's all mine. Now go away. Why it is so hard to believe when you see African-American women with decent hair which in my opinion it's not even "long". No, I don't use perms and all that jazz and because I have some length..I have "good hair"???? Ummm, it's hair it is made to GROW, it is not that deep. It just ticks me off. The ignorance!!!
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